All Good Things Must Come To an End!

Why is it that all good things must come to an end? Why is it that when you get someting good for some reason it has to go? And the sad thing is that most of the time you dont realize the full potential of what it is you had until it is time for it to go. It is strange how that works. I am in the process of loosing someting that I consider great. But I am glad for the time I have had with it. I have learned alot and my life has been altered because of it. And the wrost part was that as much as I looked up to it, it looked up to me even more and I did not know that until the end. So to it I would like to say, thank you for all that I have learned from you. You have made me realize my potential and have given me something to strive for. Thank you for your heart felt sincerity. I will never forget you. I hope someone else is a lucky as me to receive you. Thank you.

P.S. For those who are wondering (No my wife did not leave me.)

Time Away from Home

Have you ever had an extended period of time away from your family? During these times away do you reflect on your relationship with your mate, and kids? Do you ever have revelations on how to improve these relationships? When you finally meet up with your family do you implament those ideas you thought about?

Being that I am a solider in the US Army I have plenty of time away from my family. Many people think that, all that time away can be harmful to your marriage. I personally feel that if the time is used wisely and you and your spouse are dedicated then you can have a great advantage over couples who are never apart for any significant time.

Let me tell you a little bit about my marriage. I am 22 years old and my wife is 22 years old also. Together we have two sons. Tre is 3 and Vaun is 2. My wife also attends college and is expected to graduate in December of 2006. We also have custody of my brother-in-law who is 19 years old. We brought him with us to provide him with a better life and the resources that we felt he needed to succeed in life. So as you can see we have many things that can potentially interfer with our marriage. But we work really hard together to maintain our relationship and work through any hardships that we may encounter together. So far we have been married for 4 years.

I feel that my time away from my family allows my wife and I time to really think about our marriage and family. During these times away I read books on better marriage practices. They range from understanding women more, sexual stratgies, being a better father, even spiritual enlightenment. Let me say also that just because I read these different subjects does not mean that I read them to correct a problem. No, I read them to get a better understanding and to open doors that I have not thought of. I read and think about my life in all aspects and try to make myself a better husband, father, lover, supporter, generally a better man.

The hardest part to me and the most important part is to apply these ideas when you meet back up with your spouse and family. It is easy to think of the changes you need to do and would like to do, but it is hard to implament them. It takes much determanation and dedication to do this. This is were your partner or spouse comes into play. If you both have similar goals of changing and making your relationship or marriage better, then you work together, communicate and help one another make your ideas come to reality.

I would like to thank my wife who is my light in the tunnel. She provides me with everything that I am not. And supports me in everything that I want to do. It is important to me that I provide the same for her. I love you.